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#LeadChat Mentor Mentee Edition

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Q1: What qualities do you look for in a mentor? #LeadChat

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someone who acts as a role model and friend. They should broaden your perspectives to the world and as a person.

In a mentor I ideally look for someone to be my friend and to help guide me through life. They are someone who is here to be someone to listen to you vent when life frustrates you, be that shoulder to cry on when something hurts, to be that person you want to share your happy memories with and most importantly to be the voice of reason. When thinking of specific qualities I look for in a mentor I think of open communication, respect and sharing. Sharing your perspective, experiences and opinions.

Q2: What are your expectations of your mentee? #LeadChat

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I hope my mentee helps me grow as a person as much as I can help them grow. We’re in this together.

I’m not sure if I like the word expectation. I would prefer the word hopes. I have hopes for my mentee and whether they fulfill those hopes or not I will be the best mentor to them I can possibly be. My hopes for my mentee, so they are able to get the best mentor-mentee experience is for them to open up to me, get to know me as well so together we can help each other grow. “We’re in this together.” I have hopes that we become great friends and we have mutually respect for each other. I want my mentee to feel comfortable coming to me for absolutely anything. I want them to tell me about their day all the time. Ask me any questions about college or life, ANYTHING. I want to be that big sister, who has blazed the trail for them but also stands right by their side throughout their whole life.

Q3: What is the difference between a mentor and a role model? #LeadChat…

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A mentor is there for you side by side, you’re learning together a role model is someone you strive to be.

For a successful mentor mentee relationship you need to have a balance of mentor, role model and friendship. The best way I can think of explaining it is that of a big sister/big brother. In my family I am plopped right in the center of two other siblings. I have an older brother and a younger sister. Mine and my little sister’s relationship really represents a good balance of all three: mentor, role model and friend. First and foremost she and I are friends we laugh together and make fun of each other it’s awesome! On top of that I know she looks at me for advice. I see what she is going through in my past experiences for I am able to help guide her or even as simple as being able to say “don’t worry I understand, I went through the same thing.” That alone gives her piece of mind. Most importantly I know she looks up to me. She watches what I do from afar. When I make a poor choice not involving her at all she see it and takes note or if I do something great she sees that too. I work every day to be the best role model to my sister because I love her so much I want the best for her. Being able to be that role model I can help influence her to make positive choices even when I am not around.

This relationship I have with my sister is the same sort of relationship I hope to have with my mentee. Maybe not to the level as my sister and I but I want he/she to know whatever level I’m here for them to have that sort of relationship. I want to be their friend. I want to be there mentor standing next to them talking them through it and their role model as someone they look up to be or share the same characteristics.

Q4: what communication tools work best with a mentor/mentee relationship?

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More quality time spent together the stronger the relationship. Coffee date it up and talk until your blue in the face

To have effective communication you need to first have respect for one another and a willingness to get to know each other. Once that is established the more time you spent with your mentee the stronger the relationship. So for each mentor mentee relationship it will be different. You will have to see what you as a pair (or trio) want out of this relationship. You can set times you want to talk every day, week, biweekly ect. The communication tool that I believe will work best for a mentor mentee relationship is quality time together in which you can just talk. Just like a dating relationship the only way you can learn about each other is if you talk, have open communication, and share experiences.

Q5: Who do you look to as a mentor? How have they had an impact on you?

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My father, made me the person I am. He is the kindhearted, hardworking person I strive to be

My LAS mentor has been nothing but amazing and has taught me a lot but we didn’t necessarily mesh well with our hopes of the relationship. We had differences but our relationship adapted to be the perfect relationship for us as a pair. The person I truly look to for my whole life as a mentor and role model is my dad.  The tweet that I made in the short amount of characters I feel embodies everything I have to say about my dad. “My father, made me the person I am. He is the kindhearted, hardworking person I strive to be.” My dad has taught me more than I could ever comprehend. He has so much on his plate but would never think to not stop and support you no matter how busy he was. If I was to email him right now about changing my whole life plan, he may gently question it and ask constructive questions. After he would go and do crazy amount of research on it so he could be knowledgeable and support me in my choice. Then for weeks after, anything related to that choice he would send articles and websites and opportunities in that area.  He is my mentor and role model. He stands by my side in times I need guidance but is someone I have always looked up to. His calm, loving demeanor and his work ethic and leadership is all I want to strive to be. I am more than proud to say that he is my dad and I love him with all my heart.

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Mentor Reflection

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The mentor workshop really reinforced all my feelings and thoughts about being a mentor. My mentor has talked to me a lot about the purpose of being a mentor and the process of selection. So, I would say I felt pretty prepared regarding the process. What really resonated with me was when they asked the difference between a mentor and a role model. mentor 2 mentor 1In my head all I could see was a mentor being someone standing next to you and a role model is someone you look up too. I then thought to myself how I want to be both those things to my mentee. A point the Mentor Workshop pointed out was how to grow a relationship. How we will start as strangers, which will be awkward but how are we going to grow that relationship. That brings me to all my thoughts on how/ what kind of mentor do I want to be. My mentor focused very hard on helping us (me and my twin megan) finding us as leaders and the person we want to be. He did it through many deeper talks and some self-reflecting letters, which I now appreciate. He took a more philosophical approach to our relationships.IMG_0981

The way he went about growing our relationship turned out to work fine but I don’t believe would be the process in which I want to grow mine and my mentees relationship.

I am a very “relationshipy” kind of person. I love giving hugs, and asking about their day went, being the shoulder to cry on. My friends since Jr. High have always called me mom. Now I’ve been really thinking hard about what kind of relationship I want with my mentee. I don’t want that mom relationship. I want to grow from my mentee as much as I hope he/she grows from me. I want to establish trust and loyalty, and positive communication, which is the strong foundation that needs to be made.mentor 4 mentor 3 From that I believe a strong mutual friendship can be made. We can go to each other in the good times and the bad time. For me to be an effective mentor I strongly believe from the beginning we need to have that strong foundation of trust and loyalty, and positive communication. That will be built through spending time together where we feel on equal ground. No one trying to feel more or less than one other. We learn about each other’s past, present goals and goals for the future. Go on adventures together, those times you learn about their personality something that you can’t necessarily explain. All those things build trust, respect, and a care for someone whether we have something in common or not. Those things will make your mentor mentee relationship thrive. Together we will help find who we are as leaders and I will share my experiences since I have already gone through them. I strongly believe putting these into practice will make for a positive mentor and mentee experience. I look forward most to the relationship that we will build and to be that person that he/she knows will always be by their side and there to help them, share the good times, and get through the bad times together. All while helping each other grow our leadership and push ourselves to go outside our comfort zone and open our minds.

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